Best of Times – FCWG Nights

Still on the topic of ‘best of times’, I don’t have to think too hard about my next one. It happens every week and I look forward to it – the weekly meeting of the Fermanagh Creative Writing Group. I love getting together with fellow writers – to hear what they’re writing and to get feedback from them about my own work. It’s great to chat about the frustrations and triumphs of our writing lives. We only formed during the spring but the group quickly gelled and we’re going strong. Here’s what the Fermanagh Herald had to say about us last week:

Fermanagh Herald

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Best of Times – Belturbet Station Visit

Belturbet outing group 7th Sept 2009Continuing the theme of my recent ‘best of times’, my visit to the restored Belturbet Railway Station with the Fermanagh Authors Association last Monday must be added to the list. 

The FAA held our monthly meeting in a conference room at the station. Afterwards we enjoyed a poetry reading by local poets Ann Conway and P J Kennedy in the high ceilinged former Goods Store which has great acoustics. Both poets bring their recollections vividly to life.   

We finished our time at the railway station with a tour of the Centre. George Morrissey, an FAA member who has been involved with the station project since its inception and is very knowledgeable about the history of the area, guided us on an interesting look around the place.

I’m always intrigued by places of history interest and its great to find a well restored example almost on my doorstep.

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Best of Times – Bluegrass in Omagh

This week the local writers group I belong to set us the task of writing a short story that begins with Dicken’s classic line, ‘It was the best of times, it was the worst of times’. It set me thinking – not about what I will write for the assignment but about the best and worst of times I’ve experienced recently. So I think I’ll share some of my best of times with you over the next few days.

IMG_0194The first one that springs to mind is the Appalachian and Bluegrass Festival at the Ulster American Folk Park last weekend. I look forward to it every year – and the rain barely dampened my enthusiasm.

The first band I wanted to listen to were a Canadian band, the Foggy Hogtown Boys, that I’ve been hearing about – they seem to be rocking the Canadian bluegrass scene. After I caught their set I can see why – they are talented instrumentalists who make it look easy. No matter what they tackled they were laid back and in control – with the subtle humour and attitude that’s typically Canadian. No flashiness or attention seeking – their music is enough to hold your attention. They kicked off their fortnight Irish and British tour at the festival. You can find out where to catch them on their website www.foggyhogtownboys.com.

IMG_0196My next stop was to catch one of Knotty Pine’s sets – the local band that made a big impression on me at my first bluegrass festival in Omagh several years ago. Knotty Pine are four musicians who play a wide variety of acoustic music. Accomplished fiddle, dobro and banjo work backs the two vocalists. Each singer has his own style and favourite music genres which adds to the diversity of the band’s repetoire. Besides playing well, Knotty Pine also know how to connect with the crowd. They entertain and engage the audience – and the band and the audience obviously enjoy it.

The band released a new cd, The Old Home Place this spring. I’ve liked the title track since the first time I heard Aidan TonySeamasthem play it. In fact, it made such an impression on me that I opened a short story, A World Apart (The Fermanagh Miscellany 2, 2008), with lyrics from the song. The cd has a great mix of songs such as John Prine’s Souvenirs, Lynyrd Skynyrd’s Sweet Home Alabama and Greenday’s Time of Your Life as well as an original compositon, The Roundabout. I think it’s the first jazzy bluegrass tune I’ve ever heard. And the cd kicks off with a Mannfred Mann song, Fox On The Run, which has become a bluegrass staple. It’s a shame this band doesn’t have a website but they can be contacted at kpbluegrass@gogglemail.com.

Four Wheel Drive 2After a whole afternoon of great music I didn’t think I could still be wowed but my last stop of the day was with Four Wheel Drive, a bluegrass band from Germany and Belgium. They play a traditional style of music with all 5 members gathered around a single microphone. Each player has amazing technical ability and they have a wonderful harmony. I could listen to their 5 part a capella harmony all day and never tire of it. What a fantastic finish to the day!

Omagh Ulster American Folk Park’s Appalachian and Bluegrass Festival is definitely in my best of times list!

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An Extra Hour Every Day?!

Ever wish you could squeeze more into a day? I know I sometimes realise I could have made better use of my time – it’s easy to get bogged down with things that you don’t really need to do. Today I’ve invited Nicolas Soergel, author of Happy About An Extra Hour Every Day, to share some tips for saving time by tackling habits that interfere with our wise use of time. Let’s hear what he has to say –

AnExtraHour-EveryDay-midSave Time by Identifying and Changing Your Bad Habits
by Nicolas Soergel

The former athlete Jim Ryun said “Motivation is what gets you started, habit is what keeps you going.” This means that although we may start something new with a high level of motivation, unless we make it a habit, we are likely to drop it in the end.

To improve your time management for the long-term you need to change old habits and implement new ones. Here’s a three step process to show you how:

1) Focus on motivation and forget discipline
When it comes to changing habits, focusing on discipline generally leads to too much trying, all at once. Changing habits is a difficult task and requires time. If you try to muscle your way thorough a change of habit by discipline alone, you may find yourself failing and de-motivated. As a result the entire improvement project is often at stake. Moreover, the mental hurdle to start all over again gets tougher with each setback.

So, my recommendation is to never use the word the word discipline again! Changing habits is all about motivation and positive re-enforcement and rewards. Before you attempt to change a habit write down the answers to the following questions:

 Why do I want to change this?l
 What is motivatingl me?
 What would be some quick wins I can accomplish?l
 How can I rewardl myself?

Start with the quick wins. These should be easy enough to achieve and should be celebrated, even if they only have a small impact. Besides, achieving these quick wins makes you hungry for more. Reward yourself each time you achieve something. Use small rewards for minor achievements and big rewards for significant ones.

2) Change habits through chaining
Another good way to overcome negative feelings when it comes to changing habits is to use ‘chaining’. Let me explain with the following example:

You have decided to go jogging every day to improve your health. Each day you go out to run your chain gets longer. If you manage to run every day for one week you create a chain of seven days. Now maybe on the eight-day, you don’t run and the chain is interrupted. You have to start all over again to initiate a new chain and this time you try to ensure that the chain is longer than seven days.

Chaining is an approach where you complete against yourself. The concept of chaining works because when the chain breaks, you look forward to starting the next chain instead of looking back and feeling bad about the old one.

3) Replace old habits with new ones

Stopping something (e.g., smoking) that you have done for along time is one of most difficult types of habits to change. Giving up these old habits can create a feeling of emptiness. This can be avoided by replacing and old, bad habit with a good, new one.

Ideally the new habit works with the same triggers the old one did. For example: Did you smoke a cigarette after a meal? Substitute that habit with having a cup of tea at the end of meal.

nicolas[1].soergel.bigNicolas Soergel, is the author of Happy About An Extra Hour Every Day. As the CEO of a multi-national corporation, had the opportunity to interview successful executives all over the world about how they manage their time. His book help readers save time negotiating various aspects of their lives, including working, traveling, and housekeeping. Buy the book on Amazon at http://www.amazon.com/Happy-About-Extra-Hour-Every/dp/1600051405
or visit his blog at http://www.anextrahoureveryday.com

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Got Any Bad Habits?

Got any bad habits? I know I do! Do your bad habits get in the way or slow you down when you want or need to get things done? (I don’t think I’ll mention here how long I can spend surfing the net – researching, isn’t it?! – when I should be working on a piece of writing….) Drop by Ascroft, eh? on Tuesday, September 8th to read Nicolas Soergel’s article, ‘Save Time by Identifying and Changing Your Bad Habits’.

AnExtraHour-EveryDay-midNicolas Soergel, is the author of Happy About An Extra Hour Every Day. As the CEO of a multi-national corporation, he had the opportunity to interview successful executives all over the world about how they manage their time. His book helps readers save time negotiating various aspects of their lives, including working, traveling, and housekeeping.

Drop by on Tuesday and find out what he has to say about changing your bad habits.

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Widow’s Walk by Kenneth Weene

Today, as promised, I’ll give you a taste of Kenneth Weene’s new novel, Widow’s Walk. I’ll let the author introduce the book and the excerpt he’s chosen from it.

Ken: They came to Boston for many reasons: the Flanagans, the Rileys, the Hennesseys, the O’Briens – the characters who people Widow’s Walk. They left their native Ireland and set their course on a new world and a new life. They brought with them a willingness to work, a love of family, and an abiding faith. On that foundation the Irish-Americans built their place in Boston.

Widow’s Walk tells of a next step in the Irish-American experience; it explores the integration of the Irish community into the larger society. As is so often the case, it is love and the desire for emotional richness that move Mary Flanagan, the novel’s main character, into that outside world.

In the excerpt below Mary and Arnie meet for the first time. Mary, whose life is in upheaval, is for the first time looking outside the simple truths of her background. She has found her way to a large university, Northeastern, and approaches Arnie to ask directions.

Widow's Walk Front CoverExcerpt from Widow’s Walk by Kenneth Weene:

Mary starts to laugh. It is not her typical, self-controlled laughter. It is a laughter that has been stored in her soul in Ireland – filled with the beauty of a misty Irish morning and the unconscious happiness of seeing a herd of cows making their contented way home after a day of green grazing, their stomachs filled, their udders waiting for relief. Her laughter peels across the open space and seem to echo off the buildings. It is an infectious laugh, and the man starts to laugh with her. Various students stop to watch them and then walk on – some smiling and others even chuckling.

     “Why are we laughing?” he asks. He thinks to himself that he has never seen more beautiful eyes than those behind her thick glasses. “She has lovely hair, too,” he considers. “If she wanted to, this woman could be something special.”

      Once Mary’s hair had been the majestic red-brown of a fine hardwood, but age had grayed it enough to take away the magical edge of Irish defiance and turn it soft and inviting. Her body, too, is fine to see: shapely despite her years, well exercised by honest work, kept thin by her disinterest in corporal pleasures. Only her hands speak of something else. Their roughness tells of the years she has spent cleaning, cooking, taking care of others, and even, her one sometimes hobby, gardening. Those lovely flowerbeds seemed to always need tending, and Mary had spent so many hours of happy labor kneeling beside them.

     “I just realized how silly it all seems.” Her tone has a tinge of embarrassment.

     He looks at her questioningly. She seems like a nice person and is certainly attractive, but she sounds slightly mad. 

     “There’s an office that can answer my questions.” Mary starts laughing again. How ridiculously simple that sounded – how ridiculously untrue. 

KenAbout the Author:
A New Englander by upbringing and inclination, Ken Weene’s career – primarily in New York – included teaching, pastoral care, and psychology. Throughout his career Ken has also been devoted to writing. His poetry has appeared in a number of publications – both print and web. He authored a number of professional publications. His short stories and essays have also been published. One of his short plays was recently workshopped. An anthology of Ken’s work, Songs For My Father, was published 2002. His novel, Widow’s Walk, has been published in 2009.  Ken and his wife, Roz, now live in greater Phoenix where he spends much of his time writing.
 
He started writing, primarily poetry, in the 1980s. Regarding Widow’s Walk, Weene says, “Stepping away from full-time work was the best decision I ever made. Writing this story has given me tremendous personal satisfaction, and it has shown me an avenue for expression I will always treasure.”
 

If you’d like to find out more about Widow’s Walk and the author, check out these webpages:

Kenneth Weene’s Author Website – http://widows-walk.webs.com/
Facebook – http://www.facebook.com/kenneth.weene
Twitter – https://twitter.com/Ken_Weene

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Between The Sheets With Tom Jones

scan0002I was amazed and pleased last night to find Tom Jones (yes, THE Tom Jones – the Welsh singer and heartthrob for a generation of women)  and I between the sheets! Now, don’t start thinking that my dreams are taking some strange turns – I wasn’t dreaming at all. Well, I guess to be accurate, the sheets were sheets of paper – pages in a magazine actually.  You see, Tom Jones and I (well, my novel, Hitler and Mars Bars) were both featured in the August/September issue of the Irish magazine Senior Times. The magazine printed a profile of Tom Jones and an excerpt from my novel, Hitler and Mars Bars.

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How Do The Irish Fare In America?

Widow's Walk Front CoverI can never resist a novel that has an Irish connection so I was intrigued when I heard about the recent release of Widow’s Walk. It follows the story of how an Irish woman fares when she crosses the ocean to America and makes her life in that new land.

Mary Flanagan, caught between her sense of religion and obligation on one hand and her very human desire for love and life on the other, is in emotional limbo. When she meets Arnie Berger, who becomes her lover and philosophic guide, Mary’s world seems to be transformed.

Widow’s Walk, is a story of good people who struggle – sometimes successfully and often not – to deal with the challenges in their lives. The novel reflects how family, friendship, love, faith, and character affect that struggle.

Drop by on Friday, 4th September to read an excerpt from this new novel by Kenneth Weene.

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Harness The Fearless Factor

jacqueline_wales_authorToday I’m welcoming Jacqueline Wales to Ascroft, eh? to talk about what holds women back from doing what they want to and her new book, The Fearless Factor. She is a former alcoholic, mother of four, author, singer and global nomad who has performed in front of thousands of people, and developed a system to help people go beyond the fears, doubts and anxieties that hold their lives in limitation instead of abundance. She began singing at age 40, writing at age 41 and at 43 she took up martial arts. At 49 she had earned a red belt in Tai Kwon Do and a black belt in Shotokan karate.

I’m pleased to have you here today, Jacqueline. I’ll let you take it from here:

The question “What do Women Want” is as old as time itself.  Women are not complicated creatures, except to those of the opposite sex.  At the Court of King Arthur, he and Sir Gawain were placed under a spell to find the answer or die.  Searching high and low, they could not find the answer until they crossed paths with an old hag whose behavior was truly abominable. She told them she had the answer they sought but they would have to grant her the wish to marry a knight.  Now, they were desperate, but they were also noble, and Sir Gawain agreed to the marriage because he wanted to save the life of his king. 

The old hag whose name was Ragnell told them that what women wanted above else was autonomy.  They wanted to make their own decisions and be in charge of their own lives.

On their wedding night, Sir Gawain took the foul-mouthed hag into his arms and found a beautiful woman in her place.  She had also been under a spell and because he accepted her as she was, she was transformed.

So why do so many women have such a hard time making decisions that benefit them?  In my coaching practice I see women daily who can’t express what they want.  Who put themselves second to everyone else’s needs and generally feel stuck and under-appreciated. 

In a word…self-worth.  Most issues concerning confidence and communication are directly related to fear.  Fear of being rejected, abandoned, failing or being humiliated.  So women speak in soft tones, don’t ask for what they want and generally ask permission to do what they want to do.  Then they resent it, get frustrated, feel like no one is listening or devalue their position in the world to suit other peoples’ needs.

But it can be changed.

Fear is imagination based, and is usually a result of conditioning that took place long before the conscious brain too over. 

Being fearless is not the absence of fear, but the choices and decisions we make when fear shows up in our lives. 

Fearless women are women who take powerful decisions for themselves and don’t ask permission for what they want.  They take it and then they take action, setting goals, finding their strength, getting support and gathering confidence so they can take care of themselves.

What do women want?   To live their best life now.

FearlessBookEBookCover3DAbout Jacqueline Wales and The Fearless Factor– 

Jacqueline Wales is known the world over as The Black Belt Millionaire.  Her unique programs have helped women around the globe develop strong personal success, confident communication and clear visions of their goals. She is the author of five books including The Fearless Factor available at http://www.thefearlessfactorbook.com.

For more information about Jacqueline and The Fearless Factor, visit

http://www.thefearlessfactor.com

http://www.thefearlessfactorbook.com

http://www.youtube.com/fearlessfactor15

http://virtualblogtour.blogspot.com/2009/08/fearless-factor-by-jacqueline-wales.html

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Fermanagh Creative Writing Group

FCWG in Impartial Reporter

Our fledgling creative writers group first got together during the spring and has just announced our existence to the world (see the Impartial Reporter article above). Our members are enjoying sharing with and learning from fellow writers at our weekly meetings. When I first moved to Co. Fermanagh almost 6 years ago I missed the companionship of belonging to a writers group so I was delighted when we recently founded this one. When the idea was first discussed I had no intention of becoming involved in the organisation of the group, but then I found myself the treasurer and I’ve been happily involved in making plans for the group ever since – and have been enjoying every minute! I’m glad Diane Jardel had the foresight to spur us on to form the Fermanagh Creative Writing Group! 

And we even proved last weekend that we have physical as well as verbal skills when we attempted kayaking – and survived – now we have more tales to tell! See http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=114104&id=555006684&l=656e7e2c57 for the proof!

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