Got Any Bad Habits?

Got any bad habits? I know I do! Do your bad habits get in the way or slow you down when you want or need to get things done? (I don’t think I’ll mention here how long I can spend surfing the net – researching, isn’t it?! – when I should be working on a piece of writing….) Drop by Ascroft, eh? on Tuesday, September 8th to read Nicolas Soergel’s article, ‘Save Time by Identifying and Changing Your Bad Habits’.

AnExtraHour-EveryDay-midNicolas Soergel, is the author of Happy About An Extra Hour Every Day. As the CEO of a multi-national corporation, he had the opportunity to interview successful executives all over the world about how they manage their time. His book helps readers save time negotiating various aspects of their lives, including working, traveling, and housekeeping.

Drop by on Tuesday and find out what he has to say about changing your bad habits.

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Widow’s Walk by Kenneth Weene

Today, as promised, I’ll give you a taste of Kenneth Weene’s new novel, Widow’s Walk. I’ll let the author introduce the book and the excerpt he’s chosen from it.

Ken: They came to Boston for many reasons: the Flanagans, the Rileys, the Hennesseys, the O’Briens – the characters who people Widow’s Walk. They left their native Ireland and set their course on a new world and a new life. They brought with them a willingness to work, a love of family, and an abiding faith. On that foundation the Irish-Americans built their place in Boston.

Widow’s Walk tells of a next step in the Irish-American experience; it explores the integration of the Irish community into the larger society. As is so often the case, it is love and the desire for emotional richness that move Mary Flanagan, the novel’s main character, into that outside world.

In the excerpt below Mary and Arnie meet for the first time. Mary, whose life is in upheaval, is for the first time looking outside the simple truths of her background. She has found her way to a large university, Northeastern, and approaches Arnie to ask directions.

Widow's Walk Front CoverExcerpt from Widow’s Walk by Kenneth Weene:

Mary starts to laugh. It is not her typical, self-controlled laughter. It is a laughter that has been stored in her soul in Ireland – filled with the beauty of a misty Irish morning and the unconscious happiness of seeing a herd of cows making their contented way home after a day of green grazing, their stomachs filled, their udders waiting for relief. Her laughter peels across the open space and seem to echo off the buildings. It is an infectious laugh, and the man starts to laugh with her. Various students stop to watch them and then walk on – some smiling and others even chuckling.

     “Why are we laughing?” he asks. He thinks to himself that he has never seen more beautiful eyes than those behind her thick glasses. “She has lovely hair, too,” he considers. “If she wanted to, this woman could be something special.”

      Once Mary’s hair had been the majestic red-brown of a fine hardwood, but age had grayed it enough to take away the magical edge of Irish defiance and turn it soft and inviting. Her body, too, is fine to see: shapely despite her years, well exercised by honest work, kept thin by her disinterest in corporal pleasures. Only her hands speak of something else. Their roughness tells of the years she has spent cleaning, cooking, taking care of others, and even, her one sometimes hobby, gardening. Those lovely flowerbeds seemed to always need tending, and Mary had spent so many hours of happy labor kneeling beside them.

     “I just realized how silly it all seems.” Her tone has a tinge of embarrassment.

     He looks at her questioningly. She seems like a nice person and is certainly attractive, but she sounds slightly mad. 

     “There’s an office that can answer my questions.” Mary starts laughing again. How ridiculously simple that sounded – how ridiculously untrue. 

KenAbout the Author:
A New Englander by upbringing and inclination, Ken Weene’s career – primarily in New York – included teaching, pastoral care, and psychology. Throughout his career Ken has also been devoted to writing. His poetry has appeared in a number of publications – both print and web. He authored a number of professional publications. His short stories and essays have also been published. One of his short plays was recently workshopped. An anthology of Ken’s work, Songs For My Father, was published 2002. His novel, Widow’s Walk, has been published in 2009.  Ken and his wife, Roz, now live in greater Phoenix where he spends much of his time writing.
 
He started writing, primarily poetry, in the 1980s. Regarding Widow’s Walk, Weene says, “Stepping away from full-time work was the best decision I ever made. Writing this story has given me tremendous personal satisfaction, and it has shown me an avenue for expression I will always treasure.”
 

If you’d like to find out more about Widow’s Walk and the author, check out these webpages:

Kenneth Weene’s Author Website http://widows-walk.webs.com/
Facebookhttp://www.facebook.com/kenneth.weene
Twitterhttps://twitter.com/Ken_Weene

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Between The Sheets With Tom Jones

scan0002I was amazed and pleased last night to find Tom Jones (yes, THE Tom Jones – the Welsh singer and heartthrob for a generation of women)  and I between the sheets! Now, don’t start thinking that my dreams are taking some strange turns – I wasn’t dreaming at all. Well, I guess to be accurate, the sheets were sheets of paper – pages in a magazine actually.  You see, Tom Jones and I (well, my novel, Hitler and Mars Bars) were both featured in the August/September issue of the Irish magazine Senior Times. The magazine printed a profile of Tom Jones and an excerpt from my novel, Hitler and Mars Bars.

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How Do The Irish Fare In America?

Widow's Walk Front CoverI can never resist a novel that has an Irish connection so I was intrigued when I heard about the recent release of Widow’s Walk. It follows the story of how an Irish woman fares when she crosses the ocean to America and makes her life in that new land.

Mary Flanagan, caught between her sense of religion and obligation on one hand and her very human desire for love and life on the other, is in emotional limbo. When she meets Arnie Berger, who becomes her lover and philosophic guide, Mary’s world seems to be transformed.

Widow’s Walk, is a story of good people who struggle – sometimes successfully and often not – to deal with the challenges in their lives. The novel reflects how family, friendship, love, faith, and character affect that struggle.

Drop by on Friday, 4th September to read an excerpt from this new novel by Kenneth Weene.

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Harness The Fearless Factor

jacqueline_wales_authorToday I’m welcoming Jacqueline Wales to Ascroft, eh? to talk about what holds women back from doing what they want to and her new book, The Fearless Factor. She is a former alcoholic, mother of four, author, singer and global nomad who has performed in front of thousands of people, and developed a system to help people go beyond the fears, doubts and anxieties that hold their lives in limitation instead of abundance. She began singing at age 40, writing at age 41 and at 43 she took up martial arts. At 49 she had earned a red belt in Tai Kwon Do and a black belt in Shotokan karate.

I’m pleased to have you here today, Jacqueline. I’ll let you take it from here:

The question “What do Women Want” is as old as time itself.  Women are not complicated creatures, except to those of the opposite sex.  At the Court of King Arthur, he and Sir Gawain were placed under a spell to find the answer or die.  Searching high and low, they could not find the answer until they crossed paths with an old hag whose behavior was truly abominable. She told them she had the answer they sought but they would have to grant her the wish to marry a knight.  Now, they were desperate, but they were also noble, and Sir Gawain agreed to the marriage because he wanted to save the life of his king. 

The old hag whose name was Ragnell told them that what women wanted above else was autonomy.  They wanted to make their own decisions and be in charge of their own lives.

On their wedding night, Sir Gawain took the foul-mouthed hag into his arms and found a beautiful woman in her place.  She had also been under a spell and because he accepted her as she was, she was transformed.

So why do so many women have such a hard time making decisions that benefit them?  In my coaching practice I see women daily who can’t express what they want.  Who put themselves second to everyone else’s needs and generally feel stuck and under-appreciated. 

In a word…self-worth.  Most issues concerning confidence and communication are directly related to fear.  Fear of being rejected, abandoned, failing or being humiliated.  So women speak in soft tones, don’t ask for what they want and generally ask permission to do what they want to do.  Then they resent it, get frustrated, feel like no one is listening or devalue their position in the world to suit other peoples’ needs.

But it can be changed.

Fear is imagination based, and is usually a result of conditioning that took place long before the conscious brain too over. 

Being fearless is not the absence of fear, but the choices and decisions we make when fear shows up in our lives. 

Fearless women are women who take powerful decisions for themselves and don’t ask permission for what they want.  They take it and then they take action, setting goals, finding their strength, getting support and gathering confidence so they can take care of themselves.

What do women want?   To live their best life now.

FearlessBookEBookCover3DAbout Jacqueline Wales and The Fearless Factor 

Jacqueline Wales is known the world over as The Black Belt Millionaire.  Her unique programs have helped women around the globe develop strong personal success, confident communication and clear visions of their goals. She is the author of five books including The Fearless Factor available at http://www.thefearlessfactorbook.com.

For more information about Jacqueline and The Fearless Factor, visit

http://www.thefearlessfactor.com

http://www.thefearlessfactorbook.com

http://www.youtube.com/fearlessfactor15

http://virtualblogtour.blogspot.com/2009/08/fearless-factor-by-jacqueline-wales.html

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Fermanagh Creative Writing Group

FCWG in Impartial Reporter

Our fledgling creative writers group first got together during the spring and has just announced our existence to the world (see the Impartial Reporter article above). Our members are enjoying sharing with and learning from fellow writers at our weekly meetings. When I first moved to Co. Fermanagh almost 6 years ago I missed the companionship of belonging to a writers group so I was delighted when we recently founded this one. When the idea was first discussed I had no intention of becoming involved in the organisation of the group, but then I found myself the treasurer and I’ve been happily involved in making plans for the group ever since – and have been enjoying every minute! I’m glad Diane Jardel had the foresight to spur us on to form the Fermanagh Creative Writing Group! 

And we even proved last weekend that we have physical as well as verbal skills when we attempted kayaking – and survived – now we have more tales to tell! See http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=114104&id=555006684&l=656e7e2c57 for the proof!

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Find Out About The Fearless Factor

FearlessBookEBookCover3D[1]What are you afraid of? Has it ever stopped you doing something you wanted to do? I know fear has limited me at times.

Jacqueline Wales, author of The Fearless Factor, says, “Fear is one of the most powerful motivating forces in the human experience. Why then do we run from it, hide from it, pretend it’s not there? Because we believe it’s real. Fear is mostly imagination based, and if you change your thinking, you can change your life from being run by fear, to embracing the challenges that fear ignites within you. The Fearless Factor shows you how you can gain control of your life and start creating your best life now.”

Jacqueline will drop by Ascroft, eh? on September 1st to talk about The Fearless Factor and what holds women back from doing the things they want to. She has some interesting and useful insights. Hope you’ll join us!

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Imagine Me Singing ‘Happy Birthday’

scanOne year’s past – this weekend marks the first anniversary of my first post on Ascroft, eh? If I could carry a tune, I’d sing Happy Birthday but I doubt anyone could endure that.

When I started the page I had never written a blog before. Now I’m an expert!(don’t believe everything you read!) Well, I have managed an average of at least one post per week throughout the year.

When I started I said I’d post about writing and anything else that pops into my head – it hasn’t been hard to do that. I’ve talked about my novel, Hitler and Mars Bars’  progress since it was published last year and have hosted a variety of other authors introducing their latest works. I reported on my visit to the Jane Ross Writers Group to read for them in May, my radio and other media interviews throughout the year and the activities of the Fermanagh Authors Association. Straying from the topic of writing, I presented a selection of St Patrick’s parades around the world in March, my review of singer/songwriter Kimmie Rhodes’ Enniskillen gig in May and my memories of Canada in July.

I don’t know where this blog will wander during the next year but I do know that by the end of the first week of September three more authors will have stopped by to visit. They’ll be talking about Widow’s Walk, The Fearless Factor and Happy About An Extra Hour – a mixture of novels and management/self help books. Keep dropping by to see what else pops up this year.

You can imagine me humming Happy Birthday to myself now as I wander off to dream about this blog’s future – it’s better to imagine it than to hear the real thing…..Look forward to seeing you again in the coming year!

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Time Management In An Instant’s Tips

Today authors Karen Leland and Keith Bailey offer some tips for making the most of our time. The ideas in their article are gleaned from their book, Time Management In An Instant: 60 Ways to Make the Most of Your Day.  

Habits Of Action by Karen Leland and Keith Bailey

You know what you need to do. You know why you need to do it. You even know what steps you must take to get it done. But there’s one small problem: you can’t seem to get moving. It’s a common problem. Maybe it’s chronic procrastination or maybe you’re just so overwhelmed that you feel paralyzed. Either way, the task you must complete is just sitting there, gathering metaphorical (or perhaps literal) dust, and growing more ominous by the day.

A recent study by the Families and Work Institute found that a full third of Americans are overworked; more than 50 percent of those surveyed said they are either handling too many tasks at the same time or are frequently interrupted during the workday – or both. In short, we are overloaded. Is it any wonder, then, that we have trouble getting jobs started, keeping them going, or finishing them up?

As a consultant and coach over the past twenty five years I’ve observed that smart and savvy business women use three habits to get themselves to take action, even in tough times. These habits act as an inoculation against procrastination and feeling overwhelmed so that these busy women are ultimately able to press through and get things done.

Habit #1: Chunking Down: Focus on the Trees Not the
Forest

In the computer world, chunking means to break things into bits. To chunk down is to move from a whole to its parts; to chunk up is to move from parts to a whole, or from the specific to the general. Chunking your projects and goals down into smaller pieces will help you take action more quickly and easily, while at the same time helping to combat the feeling of too much to do.

Habit #2: Take Energetic Credit for Completion

When we have a big goal or task to work on, many of us wait – unnecessarily and sometimes to our detriment – until the entire project is finished before we experience any sense of completion, satisfaction, or accomplishment.

Often, even though we’re achieving pieces of our projects and goals all the time, we don’t fully acknowledge them. The most productive people we know are in the habit of enthusiastically taking energetic credit for any action they complete, no matter how seemingly small or insignificant. These people know not to wait until the big item is 100 percent done before experiencing closure. Rather, they generate energy all along the way by recognizing each item they complete.

Habit #3: Time-Planning: Put a Stop to Putting It Off

Smart people are in the habit of using a time-plan to get beyond procrastination. A time-plan is a method of assigning blocks of time to those items you want to get done (but not a minute-by-minute description of your day!) To harvest the power of planning and create your own time-plan, follow these two easy steps:

Step #1: Identify your power times for different types of activities.

Everyone has high and low periods of energy, attention, and focus. By knowing and understanding your own energy patterns you can create a time-plan that takes advantage of your personal rhythms. Reflect on your own energy patterns. When are your power times? Use your power times to take on your most difficult items. Use your down time for more routine items and errands.

Step #2: Set aside blocks of time for getting certain things done
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Keeping in mind your power times, go through your calendar and schedule a specific day and period of time when you will work on an item. Time periods ranging from 15 minutes to 2 hours are most effective. Every hour or so, schedule a ten minute break from your task; this will both keep your brain from getting tired and give it a chance to process any information, so that you can return to your project refreshed.

Lastly, don’t just plan your time in your head – write it down! Whether you use a PDA, a calendar contact program, or a plain old date book, keeping a written record of your time-plan is key.

Thanks for your advice, Karen and Keith. I’ll be putting a few of your points into practice – and I’ll write them down so I don’t forget! Would you like to tell us a bit more about your book?

time-management-in-an-instantKaren and Keith:  “In today’s hurly-burly work environment many business people find it challenging to avoid distraction, stay focused, use their time and energy to maximum benefit, and gain ground on important goals and outcomes. One study by the Families and Work Institute found that one-third of Americans are overworked and more than 50 percent of those surveyed say they are either doing too many tasks at the same time or are frequently interrupted during the workday – or both. In short, we are overloaded!

Time Management In An Instant helps the reader to overcome this feeling of overload and avoid the traps that lead to an unproductive relationship with time. It offers field-tested time habits and expert advice based on the latest research that will help the reader better manage, create and spend their time with more satisfaction and results.

Buy a copy of Time Management In An Instant the week of July 20th and receive a free license to the Essential Email online course. To buy the book and claim your bonus, or just to buy the book go to: http://www.quality-service.com/timemanagementinaninstant

While email is the most widely used communication tool for business, its remote nature – which eliminates tone of voice and body language – presents a huge potential for mischief, misunderstanding and misinterpretation. This online program will help you go beyond basic email etiquette, to the proven principles and practices for gaining mastery and saving time over your electronic mail box.”

About the authors:
5344c91354be2ce4Karen Leland and Keith Bailey
are partners in Sterling Consulting Group; an international management consulting firm. They are the best-selling authors of six books, which have been translated into ten languages.   Karen and Keith have worked with over 200,000 executives, managers and front line staff in companies throughout the world including: American Express, AT&T, Oracle, Microsoft, Xerox, Marriott Hotels, IBM, Lucent Technologies and UPS. They have been featured in dozens of newspapers including:  The New York Times, Fortune, Entrepreneur, Newsweek and Time. They also have extensive on-air experience and have been interviewed on The Today Show, CNN, Good Morning America and Oprah.  Karen is a frequent contributor to magazines and newspapers and has written for The San Francisco Chronicle, Sales and Marketing, Incentive, Women’s Day, Self and many others.  They are the co-founders of Sterling Consulting Group, which helps organizations and individuals learn how to fight distraction and find their focus in a wired world. For more information please contact: kleland@scgtraining.com

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How Do I Find The Time?!!!

If you’re like me, always wishing for more hours in the day and don’t have a second to sort out your to-do list, drop by here on Friday to read Karen Leland’s article about making the most of your time.  

time-management-in-an-instantKaren Leland and Keith Bailey have just published Time Management In An Instant: 60 Ways to Make the Most of Your Day and Karen will share some of her expertise with us.

Hope you can drop by on Friday!

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